Consider the possibility that there are no distinct entities in reality, no particles or waves; that our perceptual and conceptual faculties constrain our understanding of observable phenomena as either particles or waves such that these properties are attributable to the operation of our cognitive apparatus rather than being intrinsic to the phenomena in themselves. For it seems to be the case that there are no phenomena 'in themselves' i.e. realities existing independently of our conception, and that the very appearance of reality is conditioned by the subjective experience of an observing agent. So what may appear to us as, say, a particle (that is, a discrete point in time and space) appears as such only by dint of the operation of our perceptual and conceptual apparatus. What appears as a single particle, in fact, extends indefinitely in time and space, becoming no longer a distinct entity, a thing, but an 'unthing'. Which is to say, the particle is an entity that has the appearance of — can be conceived — as a singular object but is in fact (and in ways we cannot adequately conceive or describe) not an entity at all but an extended, indeterminate, unbounded unthing.
Aspects of this indeterminate existence are partially available to us, aspects that we mistake for the object in its entirety. Because we apprehend only a partial, bounded, limited aspect we take this to be something that is in itself bounded and limited, we take it as a discrete entity (a point or a wave) when what we are actually witnessing is the operation of our perceptual and conceptual faculties, which can apprehend only a limited aspect of what is present.
When we come to talk of a single particle, or study the relationship between two individual particles and find they are connected in a way that seems (to use Einstein's word) 'spooky', what disturbs us is the intuition that single or multiple particles should be discrete yet do not behave as such. The violation of the intuition occurs because they are precisely not discrete, individual entities, but indefinitely extended unthings that already have aspects about which we are unaware — even when observing them. We can never observe all the features of an entity at once (we cannot see it from all sides, in all its energetic states, throughout all its history, with all its connections).
The unthing is something that appears as a specific state (something) to an observer but in fact has no discrete limits or boundaries, being both something and no-thing at the same time.
